About Shame

"How can I be substantial if I do not cast a shadow? I must have a dark side also If I am to be whole." - C. G. Jung Behind loneliness,...

The Genius Of Therapy Memes

I thought it would be fun to write about one of my guilty pleasures, namely that social media staple, the therapy meme. Clever and...

Being Human: Or How Not To Be A Robot

I thought I would set myself a challenge to explore in less than a thousand words perhaps the most important question of all: what makes...

Nick Kamen: Masculinity Redefined

The death of Nick Kamen from cancer at just 59 has had me reflecting on his influence and legacy. Here was a man who burned brightly for...

Rebecca: The Return To Manderley

There is one novel I find myself coming back to again and again, Daphne du Maurier’s Rebecca. The opening dream sequence draws the reader...

Irvin Yalom: In Conversation

When I started my training as a psychotherapist, a friend who had just qualified gave me a book they thought I would enjoy. That book was...

Nourished: Freud, Food And Nigella

Back in in 1985, a long lost manuscript was discovered in the dusty archives of the Freud Museum in Hampstead, a final opus by the man...

A Life Retold

The sepia photograph is of a young man in his early twenties. He stares out with youthful confidence; the white carnation he wears on his...

Liminal Life

In my practice room, I have a framed photograph by a local Walthamstow artist called Paul Tucker which people often comment on. It is an...

The Beaches Of Our Youth

The actor Rupert Everett was on the radio recently, talking about ‘the beaches of his youth’, those places we regress to when we feel a...

Freud, Phantoms And Psychic Phenomena

As the nights draw in and the shadows lengthen, the thin place between our world and the afterlife is said to open up allowing us to...

Questions And Answers

Everyone has a few questions as they start psychotherapy or counselling. Here are just a few of them: LONG TERM? SHORT TERM? OR A QUICK...

Crowns And Glory

A plastic crown worn by the Notorious B.I.G for a photoshoot just days before his murder, has sold at Sotheby’s in New York at their...

Natalie Wood: What Remains Behind

Saturday the 28th November 1981 dawned chilly and overcast; a low, damp fog hung over Catalina Island, 85km off the southern coast of...

Mudlarking The Mind

One of my earliest memories is of being photographed as a 2-year-old. It was a blustery day and I was standing in a neighbour’s garden,...

Estrangement In Strange Times

On Radio 2 this week, the Rev Kate Bottley was talking about how the coronavirus pandemic has brought her closer to her mother and...

Daddy Issues: Freud and Fathers

There are many intriguing antithetical ideas in the work of Sigmund Freud and in his life too; here was a man who typified the...

Diana: Reinterpreting Her Legacy

The 31st of August, 1997 started as a sunny Sunday morning, glorious in fact, the summer not yet over. I had just made my way down to...

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